I started my book club a little over a year ago. As a stay at home mom of a then almost two year old I was craving the company of other women during the day who could talk about something other than their kids. I went to a playgroup which I enjoyed, but I wanted a playgroup for ME. And, while I have other girlfriends that I swap books with and talk books with all the time, I needed something in person and I wanted something during the daytime. I wasn’t looking to get out of the house, but I was looking for better conversation.
So, I asked a couple friends and I put up a little sign and soon enough we had a group of 4. We try to meet once a month and whoever hosts the group at her house gets to pick the book and also lead the discussion. When we meet the kids go off and play together while we get to talk about the book. We’re pretty informal-don’t really have any rules and it’s agreed that if you haven’t finished the book that’s ok.
One of the things I like about our group is that I think we don’t have the same exact reading tastes. We like enough of the same books that it’s not a chore to read the month’s book (well, that’s not exactly always true), but we’ve all also been pushed into trying new things. I prefer to choose books that we haven’t read before but it often happens that someone chooses a book she’s read before and wants the others to try.
Although it was not my intent at all, something that has naturally occurred is that we often talk about how we responded to a book as a mother of a young child. For example, in our conversation about The Memory Keeper’s Daughter* we all found the deception of telling a mother her child had died was practically unbearable to contemplate. Since having kids I’ve found myself even more emotional about death/kids/families in novels than I used to be (and that’s saying something because I’m an easy crier at books.) My book group has shown me that I’m not the only one who’s become so sensitive to those topics. [Our upcoming discussion is about Belong To Me, during which I cried and cried at the friend’s death imagining myself dying with my children around me.]
*(I like to steer clear of Oprah books when it comes to my picks, but we’ve actually read quite a few of them. I hate to admit it but they usually are really easy to talk about and universally liked by us. I just have a thing about reading what everyone else reads.)
As a YA librarian I wanted to introduce my friends to some YA lit and chose Speak for my first book. I thought the discussion we had about this book was one of our best yet. A YA buddy had suggested it as being a good one for women to discuss because no matter who we are or were it was likely we could all think back to being a teenage girl and feelings of isolation. This proved to be true! I am looking forward to introducing some more YA titles into our mix, perhaps some Sarah Dessen or Shannon Hale. I also think maybe we should try some sci-fi or fantasy since that is a genre we haven’t yet discussed.
We’ve definitely had some flops. Captain Corelli’s Mandolin was only read by one of us. Two of us couldn’t get more than two chapters in. When Rabbit Howls was so interesting in concept, but in reality nobody could get through it. It was one of those books that you like someone to tell you about, but it turns out that that’s enough. And even though it’s topped book lists galore for the past two years not one of us liked Cormac McCarthy’s The Road.
Nickel and Dimed was another choice that really prompted conversation. Truthfully, though, our conversation ended up being a lot more about what we thought about Ehrenreich, cleaning services, and the economy, and not so much about the book as a work of writing. I think sometimes that happens with non-fiction choices– you don’t talk about it as a book per se, but just about the content.
Thanks to Lisa for inviting me to post about my book group. I hope it encourages other stay at home moms to form their own groups!
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