A new day, a new approach.
3:30 pm Tuesday
Me: Ok, better get started on your homework. I don’t want a repeat of last night.
L.: I’m starving. Can I have a snack first? And maybe watch some tv while I eat it?
Me: Snack, yes. TV, no. And if your homework’s not done by 8 pm, you’re not going to the Halloween Dance on Thursday.
L.: WHY? Why do you always have to take stuff away? That’s not fair!
Me: Would you prefer I give you something as a reward rather than take something away as a consequence?
L.: YES! Yes, I would!
Me: Fine. If you finish your homework by 8 pm, your reward is that you will be allowed to go to the Halloween Dance.
L.: But that’s the same thing! Have you been reading those parenting books again???
Me: Maybe! Now go do your homework!
L.: FINE! (storms off)