Guest Post: In Praise of Book Clubs, Volume 3

    

 

 

In this 3rd installment of my series, In Praise of Book Clubs, Gayle from the awesome blog Every Day I Write The Book talks about the book clubs she’s been in, and why she started her own online.

I’ve been in a bunch of book clubs in my life, some more successful than others. I think back very fondly on two of them. They were each made up of 4 women (different groups of women), and we met about every 5-6 weeks at a restaurant for dinner. We’d spend about half the time just catching up, and the other half “talking about the book.” I liked the book clubs as much for the companionship as the book discussions, which were substantive and thorough. It was rare that one of us didn’t finish the book, and the process for choosing the next book was informal and without rancor.

The first book club, which survived a wedding and the birth of at least three kids, fell apart when it was just too difficult for us to find times that worked. The other three women are married to male friends of mine from college, and after a while we just sort of dissolved. No drama, no final meeting… we just faded away as a book club, though we are all still friends.

The second book club, made up of three girlfriends, also faded away sometime after I had my twin girls. We briefly revived it a year or two later, adding some new faces, but it didn’t work – at least for me. I didn’t really like the books we chose to read, and I wasn’t comfortable enough with the group to veto the picks and insert my own in their place. After this last book club incarnation, I realized why I couldn’t be in a traditional book club anymore: I need to pick the books, and I need to read them on my own time.

That may sound self-centered and a little spoiled. I agree, it is! That’s who I am, and I have come to accept it. I am a Book Tyrant.

But at least I have done something constructive with my autocratic tendencies. Almost two years ago, I launched a book blog, Everyday I Write The Book, in which I review the books I read and link to reviews of other books that look interesting to me, even if I will never get around to reading them. I love that the blog is mine, that it only features books that *I* choose. And I am continually amazed and grateful that other people like to read my blog. No one’s forcing them to subscribe or comment, right? (Well, maybe some of my readers feel obligated to stick around because they’re related to me.)

Every other month or so, I hold an online book club on the blog. So far, publishers have generously sent review copies to anyone who wanted to participate, and we’ve read some excellent books, with one more underway as I write this. The discussions have been active. I love that people can read and comment on their own schedule, and that no one feels pressure to join or finish by a particular date. Hearing new perspectives from people I don’t know is also very rewarding. Finally, I’ve been fortunate to have gotten the authors of the books to answer questions – something I never anticipated when I launched the blog. I even correspond with some of the authors I’ve featured on the blog, and they recognize me when I come to their readings. Best of all, I pick the books! All of them!

Yes, I am a Book Tyrant, but I seem to have found a venue and a readership that doesn’t mind. For those, I am very thankful.

Gayle Weiswasser

Blogger Bio: Gayle lives with her husband and two daughters in Washington, DC. She reads whenever she can find time, and started her blog in July 2006.

***Would you like to share about your book club here at Books on the Brain?  If so, leave a comment and I will get in touch with you about a guest post!

For other volumes of In Praise of Book Clubs, click HERE

For more info on starting your own book club, click HERE

For fun ways to make your book club better, click HERE

To win a copy of Matrimony by Joshua Henkin, click HERE by May 15th.  Josh would be happy to do an author chat with your book club!

To win a copy of The Next Thing On My List by Jill Smolinski, click HERE by May 15. You can contact Jill at her website about setting up an author chat.

8 Responses

  1. Another great edition, maybe I could write a post about why I miss being in an in-person book club. Reading this post was like going down memory lane for me of the various book clubs in which I parcipated.

  2. I like what Gayle had to say about being a “book tyrant.” That’s why I’ve never joined a book group, because I’m afraid I’d be wanting to read “Fight Club” while everyone else is wanting to read “Confessions of a Shopaholic.”

    It definitely has to be my books, my time. Thanks, Lisa. This little series is great!

  3. What a great post! I really enjoyed reading what Gayle had to say about her experierences in book clubs. I’ve been thinking of putting one together, but have hesitated for several of the reasons she mentioned. This was a great addition, Lisa – Thanks!

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  5. Hi Gayle,
    I really enjoy your book blog, I don’t always have time to read each entry thoroughly but I love getting it and feel connected with you. You are an amazing woman and I’m proud to be your cousin. You always have good suggestions, I wish I had the time to read half of them.
    I have been in a book club for many years, there are 15 of us (all women). The club has been around for about 20 years, most of us have been friends for even longer. It’s pretty well organized, we try to set it up for the year every summer. I love it and even though I still work full time I usually make the lunchtime meetings once a month.
    Have a very happy mother’s day!
    Love , Susie

  6. Thanks for all the comments to my post. I love hearing about others’ book club experiences. I do miss the face-to-face discussions and the chance to catch up with friends, no question. Susie – thanks for the kind words!!

    Gayle

  7. […] wrote about my own experiences with book clubs for Books on the Brain last May – here's my post. I am very happy with my current book club – it's online, it's low-key, and I […]

  8. […] Second, Lisa over at the Books on the Brain blog asked me to write a guest post about book clubs. She posted it today here: https://lisamm.wordpress.com/2008/05/07/guest-post-in-praise-of-book-clubs-vol-3/. […]

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